Girl Talk- The Nice Guy VS The Bad Guy

The Nice Guy VS The Bad Guy

Ladies, why do we always go for the unattainable, unappreciative, self-absorbed, egotistical guy? Why would you honestly want to be with someone with these characteristics? If you are struggling to come up with an answer, let me help you figure it out. Let’s break it down! Why are we attracted to bad guys to begin with? Well many believe women are attracted to “bad guy” because they are different. They don’t really fit in with the other guys you’ve dated, very interesting and like a breath of fresh air. Bad guys also appear more confident and who doesn’t love a man with confidence. I know I do! Another reason is “The Savior Complex”, you want to rescue him, be the reason he changed, and transform him into a good guy. Very unrealistic ladies, don’t play Mother Teresa! Some of us women also love a challenge and a bad guy is just that with the “cat and mouse chase”, “on and off”, “hot and cold” and “back and forth” antics. This is not a challenge, more like a big waste of time!

But let’s not put it all on men, we play a part too. I believe you are what you attract. So if you keep finding yourself in the SAME situation with the SAME type of guy then it’s possibly you or something you are doing and should fix it immediately. Women sometimes seek out “bad guys” because they have commitment phobias themselves. Men aren’t the only ones who fear being emotionally attached but this is not the solution. It’s a lose/lose situation!

So here’s what we can do to avoid getting involved with “bad guys” in the future and find someone who deserves you and treats you like the Queen you are. First step is self-respect. Don’t deal with a guy treats like you don’t matter because you do. Second, try a nice guy! I know they can come off a little clingy, give too many compliments, text and call too much, too submissive and might not appear as confident. But give him a chance, it will be worth it. Once you get exhausted from chasing, talking until you’re blue in the face and being ignored then you will realize that you can do better.

For all my male readers, if you are a “nice guy”, keep up the good work. We need more like you! Don’t be discouraged, women will soon wake up and realize what they have been missing. Nice guys don’t finish last, they just don’t start first.

If you are a “bad guy”, remember the golden rule, treat others how you want to be treated. If you don’t know how to treat women then learn how to be by yourself until you figure it out. Stop “hitting and quitting”, “using and abusing”, and most of all hurting people’s feelings because what goes around, comes around. KARMA!

Ladies, you decide who wins this battle, the nice guy or the bad guy. Just remember it’s “Better to rescue a good man from his loneliness than a bad boy from his misogyny."~Rabbi Shmuley